If you’re a parent you know what I mean when I say I don’t have the time or energy for a date. During these early years, time is a commodity, as is sleep and motivation. IE I don’t have much of any of them. I’m right there with you in bed at 9 pm in my favorite sweats with Netflix and a bowl of ice cream (well an almond milk crunch bar but you get the idea). Think about it though, there’s a reason you had those exhausting balls of cuteness and he’s probably snoozing away next to you as you read this (or working or taking care of those little monsters…errr I mean angels so you can have five minutes to yourself). If you’re going to spend your last ounce of energy, spend it on him.
Going out can be hard to arrange, expensive, and just too much work for two already exhausted people. It takes planning and sometimes, with kids, even the best laid plans can go awry. The best thing about doing a date night in is that you can do it whenever you’re feeling your best, when it works for you, your spouse, and your kids. You can have a romantic night without walking out the front door.
Step One: Order your night in. Whether you go for the Date Night In or the Faith Night, all you have to do is click subscribe and your date is planned and prepared. Get ready for a surprise (you never know where Night In Box will take you and that’s part of the fun!
Step Two: Write your spouse a note. On a day when you know you both need it and will have time to devote to some (hopefully) uninterrupted time together, leave your spouse a note to get ready for a Date Night In.
Step Three: Prepare some snacks and (adult or not) beverages for the two of you to enjoy. Make a special dessert or just pick up some (decaf- it’s late and we’re too old for caffeine past 3 pm, amiright?) coffee and Bailey’s. Adding a glass of wine or your favorite sweet can take your night in from mundane to a treat.
Step Four: Dress up. Just because you’re staying in doesn’t mean you can’t get pretty. In fact, dressing up for your night in shows your spouse just who you’re really getting dolled up for. Do your hair, grab your favorite dress or even your favorite jammies (one perk to staying in is you can get as comfy as you want- I’m sure your husband won’t mind), swipe on your favorite lipstick, and don’t forget to pucker up for your sweetie while you’re enjoying your night together.
Step Five: Wait for the kids to go to sleep. Who am I kidding? I don’t know about your kids, but mine sense when we’re trying to spend some quality time together. So prepare alternate activities such as kid’s movie night or a special activity box filled with books and simple crafts to keep them quietly tucked away. Or, wait until after 10 pm and then try, though, you may end up spending your date night, snoozing instead of smooching if you pick that option (will I ever not be tired again??).
Enjoy your perfect night in (even if it is interrupted by the pitter patter of little feet) and show your spouse how important he is without ever leaving the driveway.
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Jamie is a lifestyle and fashion blogger over at www.mommyinflats.com. She can be found running after four mischievous children, blogging about her latest fashion find (bonus if it's vintage), and spending time with her IT loving photographer husband. She loves writing, Jesus, and a good pair of shoes (maybe not in that order).