Getting engaged is exciting and new. It’s also a time of transition. When you are just dating, it’s obvious that what’s yours is yours, and theirs is theirs. You don’t expect your boyfriend to pay for your broken dishwasher, and if you’re living together, it’s likely that responsibilities are split down the middle. You both pay half of rent, contribute to equal household chores, and of course, you still go out on dates.
But what about when you’re no longer just dating?
That’s when things get gray… at least for however long you stay engaged for. Because once you’re married, I’ll tell you that nothing is equal anymore.
Nothing is equal anymore, and it all lies on you. It’s your job to do all of the chores that come to your feet and contribute as much financially to support your spouse’s needs and desires. Now it’s your job to search endlessly for opportunities to pump romance into the everyday mundane activities.
That doesn’t sound fair, does it?
It isn’t! But you don’t care, because you’re in love and committed [for LIFE] to make this the best, strongest, and happiest foundation you can.
And the silliest thing happens when you realize that when you cover ALL of the responsibilities in your marriage: Your spouse does the same thing. And things seem pretty equal looking from the outside in.